The Best Yes

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YES! YES!! YES!!!

No, no, no,  I haven’t been watching a re-run of the movie, When Harry Met SallyI’m reading The Best Yes, by Lysa TerKeurst.

On Wednesday nights, me and about 24 of my “best yes” friends are learning  to make wise decisions in the midst of endless demands, and we are having a blast while we’re doing it!

We are saying YES to truth, YES to wisdom, and YES to God. That’s the very best YES!

Only a few weeks into the study, I started seeing women’s lives impacted by God in immeasurable ways.

Very cool.

Each week we laugh at how wacky life is.  We revel in the community that we’re building around the commonality we share in making really tough choices every day of the week.

As women we already have such a strong relational pull to band together, but learning God’s truth gives us another good reason to be “one”.

Here are just some of the nuggets we are learning from The Best Yes  –

“The decisions you make determines the schedule you keep. The schedule you keep determines the  life you live. And how you live your life determines how you spend your soul.”

“We have to put our hearts and minds in places where wisdom gathers and not scatters.”

“We must not confuse the command to love with the disease to please.”

“Wisdom makes decisions today that will still be good tomorrow.”

“Today’s choices become tomorrow’s circumstances.”

“Our decisions aren’t just isolated choices. Our decisions point our lives, in the direction we’re about to head. Show me a decision and I’ll show you a direction.”

“Choices and consequences come in package deals. When we make a choice, we ignite the consequences that can come along with it.”

“My imperfections will never override God’s promises. God’s promises are not dependent on my ability to always choose well, but rather on His ability to use well.”

“Together is a really good word. Together is what we need when we hit really tough patches in life. Making decisions when life is making you cry shouldn’t be done alone.”

And there’s so much more – we’re only a third of the way through the book!

Here’s what I’m seeing that’s tickled my heart to no end. God’s Spirit is moving among my “best yes” friends in some supernatural, God kind of ways.

In the process of  acquiring the wisdom to make good decisions, we’ve been acquiring the wisdom to discern God’s voice.

Every week different women have come forward and shared with me how they are hearing God speak to them through a scripture or a word of encouragement spoken in class. I see the joy in their faces and hear the excitement in their voices as they recount their experience of God affirming a new truth through His Word, a message in church,  friends, or circumstances.

God says if we lack wisdom we should ask Him for it. He gladly gives generously to all without finding fault. (James 1:5).

We’ve asked and He is providing.

Love it!

If you’re not already in a small group, accountability group, life group, triad, or  Bible study, let me encourage you to find one – or better yet – let me challenge you to start one. Ask for wisdom and watch what God will do.

And when you do, you might be the next one we hear shouting out, YES! YES!! YES!!


{This article was written by Christy Mobley.  Christy is a girly girl at heart. She has a passion for fashion and decorating which is to say she loves clothes and accessories and moving things around her house. She chases tennis balls for recreation and enjoys scavenging the beach for shark teeth.  She and husband David are life group leaders and have been at Chets from it’s earliest beginnings. They have been married for thirty years and have two adult sons and two daughter-in-laws.  Christy loves sharing God’s Word through writing and teaching and has recently joined the Chets Women’s communication team and Bible study team. She invites you to join her on her blog “Joying in the Journey” at www.christymobley.com.}

“Restless” goes to Gabriel House of Care

This summer, Kelley and her Spring Bible study group served at the Gabriel House of Care near Mayo Clinic.  She shares about her experience below!  As we gear up for Impact Jax on September 20th, here is a glimpse of just one of over 25 options you have as places to serve in and around our community on that Saturday!  You can also serve at Gabriel House with any home-grown group of life group members or friends!  Contact info for Gabriel House is at the end of this post!


I had the privilege of leading Jennie Allen’s new Bible Study “Restless: Because You Were Made for More” on Tuesday mornings this past Spring. It was the perfect follow-up to the If: Gathering event she had orchestrated where we were encouraged to live out our dreams. Restless was going to help us identify these callings through uncovering what Jennie Allen refers to as “threads”. As we studied the rollercoaster life of Joseph, we examined the unique stories God was weaving in our own lives.  We worked to identify our personal threads in the areas of: gifts, suffering, places, people and passions. We dug deep, individually and with partners, to review our pasts and examine our present in each of these areas, discovering patterns in order to see where God could be directing our future areas of service.

I wanted to end this study with a practical application of what we had learned. How could we best put into practice what we had been challenged with during Restless, while serving others? Gabriel House of Care on the Mayo Campus seemed like the perfect fit.

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I had heard of this ministry through other groups at Chets, such as the Larry Price LifeGroup, who serve there regularly. This is a home-away-from-home for patients awaiting transplants or who need regular treatments but live far from the hospital. This was near and dear to my heart as my husband underwent a bone marrow transplant at Mayo just three years ago. I knew what a blessing this home cooked meal would be to these weary patients and caregivers, far from the comforts and familiarity of home. I could not wait to experience it for myself.

Our group agreed this would be a great place to serve together, and we were excited to participate. We came up with our menu after learning about some dietary guidelines and we quickly filled the sign-up sheet! I got busy researching how many pounds of taco meat would be needed to feed 50-55 people for our taco bar and made a big Costco run.

photo-8The day of the meal I was excited to learn that the residents were very open to prayer so I had my team write “How can I pray for you?” on our name tags. We arrived early and started cooking up the meat, setting out crock pots of beans and rice, and spreading out the numerous toppings. I was a nervous wreck that I had not planned correctly and this would be a colossal failure, but I reminded myself to calm down and enjoy the experience of serving with my friends. The residents then started to line up. As I scooped out that first spoonful of black beans, I was suddenly overcome with emotion. Seeing the patients in their masks and holding their oxygen tanks made my eyes tear up and I had to hold back a choking cry. I had been so focused on the preparation and planning that I had not really thought of the people or prepared myself for the memories it would bring flooding back. Thankfully, I was able to gain composure and finish my part.

The residents were all so appreciative and kind and raved about the food. We joked that many of us are moms of young children so we loved hearing compliments on our cooking again! (The last time I cooked tacos my 6 year old son came out of his room with a “Ewww, what’s that yucky smell, Mommy?!”) They were pleased to learn there would be plenty of leftovers for their lunches the next day.

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Once everyone made it through the serving line we were encouraged to go sit with the residents and interact with them. This was a bit nerve wracking especially for us introverts, ever afraid of being a bother, but we put on a brave face and approached the tables. We had nothing to fear, for the people were so warm and welcoming. I joined an older looking couple sitting at a table for three, and after talking for a while and sharing our stories I asked if I could pray for them. I held their hands and prayed for their situation through tears. The woman, who was awaiting a lung transplant, looked me right in the eye and said that this moment was the best of her entire experience here. Wow, what a God moment. I honestly felt this was all my heart could handle and I wanted to flee to the kitchen and have a good cry. I knew that was not an option so I ventured out to other tables. Seeing my Restless gals scattered throughout the large dining room, each ministering to these hurting people, gave me courage to keep on.  I was able to meet people all the way from Boston to Fort Lauderdale. Two couples had lived within 20 minutes of previous cities I had lived in! Connections were made and I was able to share my hopeful story of my husband’s successful transplant. As soon as I brought this up their eyes would light up, knowing I could truly understand their situation. We started to clean up and out of the corner of my eye I saw one new couple and after asking around, realized no one had sat with them yet. So I joined them, assuming the man in the wheelchair was the patient, but as I got closer I could see his wife was wearing an oxygen mask. It turns out they are members of the Price LifeGroup while in town! She had received devastating news that day and was processing the information with me. I could relate, all too well, with those low days where you start reevaluating everything. I was so thankful God led me to talk with her.

photo-7A few of us stayed on and got a tour of the beautiful facility. We then talked briefly in the parking lot, processing the experience together. We got a good laugh out of our favorite question of the night, “Do any men go to your church?” Some Bible Study group members could not come but wanted to help by donating money and I had forgotten to divvy that up while everyone was still present. I asked what I should do with it and they quickly said, “We will just use it for our next meal!” It was a true joy not only to serve these brave people but also to serve alongside my Restless group and see them put into practice what we had been learning together.

If you are interested in gathering some girlfriends to serve, contact Drew Khadivi, Volunteer Coordinator, at 904-821-8995, ext. 102. You can also reach Drew by email at dkhadivi@salh.org.  Visit www.gabrielhouseofcare.org for more information on this wonderful home.


{This post was written by Kelley Hastings.  Kelley is married to her seminary sweetheart, Eddie, and they have two charming and rowdy boys. Kelley helps lead an adult LifeGroup and serves on the Chets Women’s Bible Study Team. She loves encouraging women to apply the truth of God’s Word and fully use their gifts. Her heart beats fast for infertility issues, adoption, caregivers and, of course, dark chocolate.}

Transformed by prayer

At “ONE”, Chets Talk speaker Debbi Hoeft shared about a friend who sought God in prayer, even through numerous trying times.  Meet Ann, today’s writer!  She shares how her life is transformed by prayer.  Thank you, Ann, for your beautifully written words!


As a child, I heard Bible stories and went to Sunday School. As she dropped me off at church on Sundays, my mother said she had “done her time” at the Presbyterian church in our small town.  I took confirmation classes and was confirmed in the Episcopal church because my best friend was doing that.

It was the 1950s and my mother and father and their friends gathered more than once a week, downing martinis and having parties. They weren’t terrible parents – just not religious parents.

My favorite grandmother was Catholic but didn’t go to church. As I grew older, I was told that she didn’t go because she was practicing birth control (due to difficult pregnancies) and couldn’t take the guilt of having to confess her “sin” each week in order to be granted God’s forgiveness.

As I reached my teens, I loved the pomp and circumstance of both the Episcopal and Catholic churches and attended both on and off. I thought of becoming a nun after seeing Audrey Hepburn in The Nun’s Story. When I was 22, my mother was diagnosed with breast cancer and so began a 3 year struggle with chemotherapy, radiation, and metastases to her bones, brain and liver. I watched as she suffered tremendously.

I prayed a lot during those years – prayed for God to take my mother to a better place, prayed for Him not to take her a “piece at a time” as I watched her bones fracture. I wasn’t conscious of it at the time, but I remember she spent a lot of time with the hospital priest during some of those terrible months. She told me she could talk to him about things she couldn’t say to my sister or me, things she feared, things she was unsure of.  At the time, I believed she was going to heaven because she was basically a good person and I didn’t really get the Jesus as savior thing… I am now so grateful for the time she spent with that priest, because I am able to believe she had the knowledge and choice to accept Jesus as her savior and that I will see her again in heaven.

For the next 35 years my life, I went through many ups and downs. I divorced, remarried, divorced again, moved to Florida, and raised my 2 wonderful children as a single mom with a full time job. I went to church occasionally – for holidays, funerals, and the like, and I prayed rarely – mostly if someone was ill or something really scared me with regard to my kids. I was happy, had a good job and was living a “normal life” on my terms.

On Good Friday in 2009 my sister and brother-in-law were in a horrific car accident. They were stopped at a red light on Philips Highway when a pickup truck slammed into the back of them, crushing their car, killing Chick, and seriously injuring my sister. I came out of the movies with my grandsons and saw a message on my phone to call Shands Hospital. The praying began again…

Over the next several weeks and months I prayed all the time. I prayed for my sister’s broken heart, healing for her physically, mentally and spiritually; I prayed for me to have strength; I prayed for Chick’s soul; I prayed for my family’s pain and sadness; and on and on.

During this time,  strong, Christian women seemed to enter my life regularly. I met one woman at a networking mixer where we became friends and had spirited and spiritual discussions. Her strength of faith inspired me to pray and learn even more. I continued to pray for my loved ones, but I also began to pray for myself and for my relationship with Jesus Christ. I began listening to a Christian rock radio station and gave up talk radio – which had been making me nuts for a long time anyway!

I began attending church at Chets and a Lifegroup was recommended to me. At my first visit to the Lifegroup I immediately felt at home. I was the only “single” in a married couple group, but they all welcomed me with open arms and encouraged me to share and be a contributing member. I immediately warmed to them all, but especially to one special woman in our group who has done nothing but support, encourage and educate me.

During the months following the accident, I lost my job, was unable to pay my mortgage (which ended in foreclosure), suffered a setback in my health, and I was generally not in a happy place. To be a 58 year old woman and looking for a job in a struggling economy – I wish it on no one! I persevered, worried, strategized, struggled and kept praying.

Gradually, God’s love and provision became more and more evident.  I say gradually, not because God was slow, but because I was.  I need a brick to hit me in the head sometimes – have you ever felt the “brick”?

The relief was immediate on the day I said, “Dear Lord, take it all” and meant it. That was the key for me – I’d had great support from my new-found women friends, I was getting comfortable at praying, searching and learning God’s Word, but I was still trying to control my life. One day, I was sick of the results of doing things my way, and so my prayer for God to “take it” was sincere for probably the first time.

Provision was provided by God in ways too numerable to list. I began to see his hand in so many areas of my life and the life of my sister. I prayed so specifically for my sister that there was no way the answered prayers could be coincidence or chance. My eyes were opened every day to the beauty in this world. I took some bible studies and met amazing women to whom I was instantly attracted because of their hearts.

I know now that God guided me to the support and friendships I needed. I still struggle with sin, making good decisions, being foolish, etc., but I am continuing to learn what God wants for me and of me. My life has been transformed. He answered my many prayers and He continues to be my answer.


{This post was written by Ann Eastwick.  Ann is the mother of two wonderful grown children and two marvelous grandsons.  Originally from New Jersey, she moved to Jacksonville 30 years ago.  She is a retired paralegal who is now a wedding officiant, helping couples create wedding ceremonies that are special and unique.}

Event Recap: “ONE”

The night began with pretty hors d’oeuvres, fancy soda drinks and free hugs. There was aromatherapy and a few massage chairs set up.  The atrium was a sight to behold, filled with women of all ages. Meeting new people that I’ve seen in the halls of Chets Creek Church, but never talked to before was fun.

At my table I met four new women who shared something in common with me: we were all single moms. We ranged in age but were able to build a good conversation from our one commonality.

Check this out:

Screen shot 2014-09-02 at 12.45.14 PMDo you see what I did here? (Didn’t notice this until halfway through the night, apparently I didn’t read the table number correctly.)  God was working that night as I sat at the wrong table, but ended up with all single women sharing similar challenges. That’s pretty special.

After a delicious dinner, we had a time of praise and worship. It was amazing how God moved through the room during that time.

We were then blessed to hear from some great women who provided wisdom about being authentic and intentional with one another, inviting others into spiritual friendships, and serving where God has placed you.

From my notes are the Top 5 Discipleship Truths shared by Debbi Hoeft:
5. You must BE a disciple
4. You must MAKE disciples
3. You must BE a disciple to MAKE disciples
2. Discipleship is a WAY OF LIFE
1. A life transformation TRIAD is a proven way to BE a disciple who MAKES disciples

The ladies encouraged and challenged us.

We were challenged to think of ONE step that we could take to move towards God’s best for our lives.  Just a few from my notes:

Be intentional and genuine in your actions.

Be who God wants us to be. Ask him to mold us into his disciple.

And a ONE Step for all of us:

We need to be real. If you are real, than other women will feel comfortable being real too. Don’t be afraid to show who you are because you never know who’s struggling with a similar problem.

ONE was a time like I hadn’t seen at Chets before.  If you want to check out some photos from the event, check out last week’s post by clicking HERE.

If you are looking for another great gathering of women at Chets, the Beth Moore Simulcast is coming THIS SATURDAY!  Email Kate@chetscreek.com to register.


{This post was written by Rachel Della-Loggia. Rachel is a single mom of a sweet 7 year old girl named Emmalee.  She works full time and is also working on her Masters Degree in Business Management.  She is originally from Abington, PA, but has lived in Jacksonville for 23 years.  Her favorite things include spending time with her daughter, reading…and butter popcorn jelly beans!}

Photo Recap: ONE Event

Did you attend “ONE” just over a week ago?  We had an amazing time coming together as women, enjoying a night complete with beautiful decor, great food, fun times in the atrium, and listening to encouraging words spoken my some of our very own Chets Women.

Best of all: GOD SHOWED UP!  We hope He spoke to you in a real and personal way.  For now, we’d love to share some photos from the event.  Later, you’ll hear from Rachel, who reflects on her time at ONE.   Tell us how you enjoyed the night in the comments below!

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Lori and her team went ALL OUT! The table decor was ah-mazing!

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Did you know that our faithful prayer team prayed over EACH and EVERY seat in the worship center prior to the event?? We hope you were blessed because of it!

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Some beautiful ladies running our aromatherapy station.

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Pampered! Did you get to enjoy a massage by one of our great ladies providing chair massages?

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We hope you got one of Beth’s free hugs! You’ll have to ask her, but I’m pretty sure that they are always free!

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Our middle and high school girls graciously served hors d’oeuvres and dinner to us. Aren’t they the best??

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More beautiful decor.

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Our registration team welcoming the ladies!

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Making new friends in the atrium.

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Smiles all around.

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Some ideas for breaking the ice. Why not try this out on Sunday, too?

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Thank you, worship team, for leading us in a beautiful time of worship.

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Chets Talks! Thank you Kelly, Debbi, and Jackie for sharing your wisdom with us! We are blessed because of it!

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Our fearless leader (Susan Frees) BROUGHT IT. She asked for a REVOLUTION in Women’s Ministry. Are you in?

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Something illuminating to end the night: see what God can do when we say “YES” to impacting the lives of just TWO other women?


{These photos were taken by Tamara O’Hanlon.  Tamara accepted the Lord when she was 18 years old, thanks to a youth pastor and his wife who took the time to share and show God’s love to her.  She has been married for 21 years to Jim and together they have a 17 year old son, whom she is able to stay home with and home-school.  Originally from Kansas, she and her husband have been in Jacksonville for 12 years. She has been through a lot in her walk with the Lord, but knowing the love He has for her carries her through the hard times.}